The Incomplete Cynic

genderbitch:

Just be mindful of when your beliefs and preferences are in the wrong. We’re not always right and sometimes people’s responses are a sign we made a mistake.

True enough. It can also be a sign they don’t like something about you, or that they’re in the wrong. I try to pay attention, though.

“Drawing attention to it?”

If you mean the guy who’s femmy and has a lisp (the “fabulous” archetype) that’s just someone being themselves. It’s no different than me wearing my fauxmilitary jacket or you listening to music you like.

Self expression is not rubbing your face in it. It’s just being.

I agree in part. Being black and straight, I have way more experience with the black token than the gay token, so that’s coloring my response. Sometimes self-expression is just being, sometimes is projecting. Or maybe I just don’t like hanging out with the “fabulous” / femmy types. 

Ngl, I don’t think I’d enjoy being friends with you.

I’m not really surprised, considering I’m politically and socially conservative, and an evangelical seminary student. You might though. I’m not really that bad in person.

(via queersecrets)